grace for yourself:
I tend to be most critical of myself. I am always over-analyzing a situation and can be overly sensitive to the feelings of others. Almost as if I need for others to be okay with my actions and my decisions so that I can feel okay about them. But constantly seeking affirmation from others, questioning myself and beating myself up robs me of peace. So, instead I am going to try something different. I am going to be more aware when I start tearing myself down and start offering myself some grace.
Even though it has been said a million times, I am going to say it again here. We need to realize that not everyone is going to agree with our decisions, every time. (No matter how right we think we are.)
grace for others:
I hold others to a high standard. I want for people to handle situations as I would. If I see someone struggling with a particular area of their life, it is really easy to make a snap judgement and put myself on a pedestal because I am so much better at keeping it together than they are. Who am I kidding? I may not struggle with item A, but that does not mean that I am not struggling with item B. Just because someone else’s mistakes are different from mine does not make them worse. It makes us all human.
We tend to categorize faults and sins on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the worst possible sin one can commit. But you know who doesn’t rate sins on a scale of 1 to 10? God. Thankfully, He loves us and forgives us all, no matter if we committed a level 1 sin or a level 10.
Holding on to past mistakes (whether you committed them or they were committed to you) robs you of peace today. Always go overboard in offering grace. One day you will be on the other side hoping that grace is extended to you.
As I’ve said before, try it. I dare you. Forgive, as you’ve been forgiven much. Extend grace, as you’ve been extended much grace.